Tips to Posting Personals
Posted by Jennifer Lester
Want to have more fun in your online dating experience? Post
your own personal ad! Posting your own ad can be quite an ego
booster. Just wait until you open your mailbox to find all the
responses. It is a blast! So put on your creativity hat and read
these ideas to get your words flowing.
Idea #1 - Be Honest
You know the old adage the truth always comes out. Any
relationship that is going to be worth starting should begin
with honesty. Dont ruin what could turn out to be an incredible
relationship or friendship by starting it out with lies. If you
try to hide the fact that your are not perfect, you may miss out
on a person that can love you specifically for your
imperfections.
Maybe you are a single parent, be up front about it. Your kids
are a treasure, not something to hide. You dont want to start
dating someone who has no intention of having kids, so save
yourself the heartbreak and be honest about it from the
beginning. You will have a better chance at finding a person out
there that will love you for the package deal you come with.
If you are a little overweight, or not in the best shape of your
life
who cares! Just dont try to say you are something you are
not. When you finally go to meet this person, they are going to
find out anyway. Why set yourself up with a person who might be
disappointed when you could be spending your time talking to
someone who will love you for every inch of who you are?
Do you know what type of person you are looking for? Tell them!
Dont waste your time with people who dont even come close to
fitting that mold. If you are looking for someone just to have a
sexual relationship with, save the wrong person from the
possible heartache by being up front about that too.
Idea #2 - Create a Standout Headline
You need to be sure you shine above the rest so the right person
is more likely to check out your profile. With an eye-grabbing
headline, you can bring more attention to yourself. Just writing
SWF, 33, lonely wont help you. There are plenty of those out
there.
Start by browsing other ads. See what catches your eye. Does it
make you laugh? Is it direct? Whatever seems to grab you, use
that idea. Just dont copy it word for word. You want yours to
be original.
Be sure to know the rules of the service you are using. If you
want to write a racy headline, be sure it is acceptable with the
service you are subscribing to. Some like Altmatch or Intimate
Adults might be fine with it. While others such as eHarmony and
One and Only may not. Remember, if you write a racy headline,
the people who will come to you will be looking for that type of
relationship. If you want something of more substance, keep it
clean. However, above all else
.make it funny! Nothing seems to
keep someones attention like laughter.
Idea #3 Be Optimistic
Let your light and excitement for life shine through in your
writing. Negativity is for your therapist, not your prospective
lover. Unless you want people to send you referrals to a mental
health clinic, dont let this be a nag session. Smiles are
contagious. Let yours show through your words. Remember that
confidence without arrogance is one of the sexiest traits a
person can possess.
Idea #4 Be Specific
You need to know who you are and who you want to find before you
start writing. Then, when you begin, be sure you are specific in
your profile. This will help you attract the right kind of
people. If you dont want kids, tell them. That way a single
parent does not waste their time and yours writing to you. If
you love to travel let them know so a person who is up to a lot
of adventure knows to come your way. Whatever it is
just spell
it out clearly.
Idea #5 Check for Errors!
Check your of spelling. If you write a personal filled with
grammar and/or spelling mistakes it is like showing up for a
date dirty, unshaven and in yesterdays clothes. Someone who
puts their best in their personal ad will be more likely to put
their best in their relationship. Like in any other situation,
if you put your best foot forward, you are more likely to end up
with good results.
Idea #6 Pick a Flattering Photo!
In the spirit of putting your best foot forward, pick a
flattering picture of yourself to post with your ad. You can
take most regular photos to Kinkos or camera stores and have
them digitized for computer use. Some of these online dating
services will even let you send them a regular photo by snail
mail and they will scan it to post for you. Just dont throw
one up there that was taken with your web cam. Those really are
never flattering.
Idea #7 Get Ideas From Friends and/or Family
Have a friend or loved one write something about you to get you
started. Sometimes seeing ourselves through someone elses eyes
can be very enlightening. In fact, a female friend of my
husbands wrote the ad that I responded to. Gotta say
it worked!
Idea #8 BE HONEST!!!
Okay, so I really had only 7 ideas, but wanted to repeat this
one anyway. BE HONEST!!!! It will get you better results in the
long run.
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